A Reader Writes:
I am not “new” to game etc but your
article on the secrets of woman, part 3 particularly opened my mind…well it
was like a fuck’n grenade going off in my head really.
You see I am specifically referring to the section in part 3 where you talk
about how we as men should not seek to bond with women on a deeper level, that
they (women) essentially are rather “superficial” with their emotions and
cannot comprehend our depth or have insight into our deeper character. Now if
I did not interpret that correctly then I apologize and please correct me. You
see this was the part that kinda upset me….cause it made so much sense…all
of a sudden everything fell into place…all the other bits and bobs of advice
in your other articles fell into place, as well as everything else I have
learnt in the past. This was the missing piece to my understanding!!! Without
this part the rest of game theory is just that, theory, this part is critical
cause it tells you WHY you are doing it!!!!!!What upset me was that “why did I
not know this earlier, as in when I was 18 or 19 (I am 38 now b.t.w.)
When the understanding of women happens it can trigger an internal explosions of “AHAH”‘s and Satori’s – sometimes the shrapnel gets wedged into your inner skull – It is a powerful thing, and allows all the game concepts to fall into place – as you understand all the different strategies that men employ to not only bang women, but to enjoy their company. In essence you’re welcome reader(s).
Your interperatation is pretty accurate, but I also realize how I wrote it could assume a negative reaction or interpratation in regards to women’s instinctive behaviour. It’s not that you shouldn’t seek a deeper bond with women, because they’re superficial, some chicks can have very powerful bonds (mothers for example) that last a lifetime, however it is not the same as you as a man perceive it, for it always is reliant on how she feels about you at the time that she is thinking of you, or in her presence – the bond is not the same, it doesn’t mean it’s inherently bad. Women have evolved to serve her own genders success and survival – it behooves her to act any different than her nature. And how a girl bonds may seem superficial to us men, their capacity to bond is relatively easy – whereas a man we require more deep resonating important factors in a relationship with another person, and it involves trust to a level of knowing said individuals are there for your mutual benefit, rather than a onesided benefit like that of a girl. A girl does not bond with you because she may feel like she’s got your back just as much as you have her back, for example, she simply bonds with you because of the way you make her feel, and it is much more reliant on protection, safety, provisions, and excitement, both sexual and non-sexual. As a man, what you give you expect to get back, but that’s not how a woman works, what she gets, she gives (or should) give you things you cannot get from yourself, like children, and femininity, etc. However, this is not a prerequisite as it is with guys. It is a more subserviant action.
Just because a girl cannot identify with our deeper die for our loved ones type of bond, does not mean they are neccessarily all superficial. Many times a woman will die for her offspring, for this is the closest bond that they can experience that is like a man’s bond with any creature he deems in his tribe. But again, this derives by how the child makes her feel, in general, and this bond is how women bond. Men, because we cannot bond with a child growing in us, do not have the same capacity to bond this way, and therefor developed a deeper meaning of bonding, a more character driven and action driven bonding mentality rather than an emotional, how you feel about another being. It quite simply cannot be biologically the same, and therefore shoots an arrow directly in the heart of gender neutral theorists. Our biology is more than just genitals, and our differences go deeper than social programming.
Our reader goes on to write:
Now looking at what you wrote it would seem to me that in terms of a woman’s
true nature, you as a man should not consider or worry about “trying” to build
a deeper bond with a girl as this is NOT wired into their character and into
their genetics, in fact they will probably see your attempt at seeking a
deeper emotional bond with them as WEAKNESS. Is this assumption correct?
And would it be correct to say that there are truly only 2 things that women
can bond with:
1) their own V-tingles / good sex feelings and
2) their own self interest (manipulate you into getting you to submit)
So since we know that a deeper bonding is not in their character/genetics that
we as guys should simply just live to;
tease them, never take them seriously, don’t be invested and drawn in by their
outward show of emotion (eg destroy their shit tests), be dominant, show no
weakness (i.o.w.) run a tight game and lastly bang them good and dirty?
Your thoughts on the above?
Lastly, I would appreciate more insight from you on the true nature of
women…what is truly behind that curtain donlak?
You are correct that you shouldn’t seek to build a deeper bond with a woman in a man’s way, or how you would with another man, for that will lead to disaster for you, for you will feel that everything you did together that meant a lot to you, did not mean anything to her, she will appear to be a cold hearted bitch by being able to switch this bond off in moments and move on with her life, even bonding with another man in a lightning fast moment. You should not do this, because you should know that they do not bond this way, so your assumptions are incorrect and warp your evaluation of where the relationship is, and where you stand in it. She may not be feeling it any more, and instead of picking up on the clues and gaming her appropriately, you fall back on the, our whole life was built together, she won’t just throw that all away assumption. Women when they lose their good feelings for you and tingle, have severed the bond already just by those feelings alone.
As for your list, yes but more than just sex, however without the tingle you really can’t have any other feelings that will keep a bond. For flings and short term relationships, this is really all you need to be concerned with, for longer term relationships, you need a little more than just the tingle, you need to create a sense of wonder that doesn’t fade, a sense of excitement and awe and respect. And lighten up on the cold cocky bastard ways and show some well placed tenderness and caring.
The key to come to grips with a girls bond is to understand how her bonds work. To say their superficial can take you pretty far, but you would lack a greater understanding of them, and would devalue some of your relationships, that you feel a strong bond to. You have to understand that she does not view the bond like you do, and act accordingly. You do not act like her, because that would kill the tingle, but you don’t expect her to keep her bond with out keeping the tingle alive, and all that keeps her looking up to you and being under your protective veil. Don’t let society fool you, this stronger than her, and safety net, both physically and emotionally are very important for her bond to you. It is her feelings for you that shape her bond, and thus why you need to game her, short term or long term. Or in a less red pilly way, you need to be aware of what it is she bonds with or values out of the relationship so you can maintain her protection and fantasy.
You need to shed the concepts of what you believe a bond is with a woman, and allow yourself to see the behind the curtain, to how she sees the bond. Feelings, feelings, feelings. It’s always about how she feels.