A reader writes:
it would seem
that married men all over the world, irrespective of color or culture suffer a
similar fate at some time or another.A t some point in time the wife decides
that she will covertly dictate the sexual schedule in the house eg. “we will
have sex when I feel like it attitude” and for some receiving head (oral sex)
becomes something that only happened in the distant past. Regarding bj’s, well
she now no longer feels like doing it and has “never actually” liked doing it,
but will perhaps give you one on your birthday and Valentines day, maybe. So
what is a man to do? Firstly, I would bet all my worldly possessions that
these bitches would NOT pull a move like this prior to marriage, like if they
were still just going out with the guy, or just moved in with him, in which
case most guys….even the beta would put them out on their asses. But being
married changes the sphere wherein “the game” is played! My take is that the
only true way to TAKE BACK your power is ultimately divorce, however this is
costly and risky, is there another way, another option for such a man to get a
one up in his marriage and get the power back? Any advice?
A few things here, I’m not sure this is a rampant problem all over the world, the west for sure, as the west spreads it’s parasitic views around the world, it may be seeping in more and more, but I’m not so sure it’s saturated every country yet.
Secondly, in the current modern landscape divorce is not a tool to get hand, as you will lose at least half your shit to a girl, so you can’t use that as a tool to gain upper hand in a marriage.
The best way to get hand in a marriage is to never lose it in the first place. You are in a serious disadvantage if you are deep into a marriage where wifey has all the hand, you can learn to game your wife, and it can help, it may even save a few marriages our there, but to be brutally honest, it depends on how far her attraction has waned for said man. There is a point with any girl out there where there is no return from her sexual/emotional repulsion for a man. Despite what some people might say. I think it’s important for a man to understand this. Game will not always work. It is important for all men, in a marriage or not to realize he should cease all efforts in ‘winning’ her over or back.
There isn’t a catch all for this situation, it works a bit different if you were masculine and very attractive to her in the beginning, for getting back to basics of game or being a man will work, whereas if the man was always under her spell, he’s really got no chance if all of a sudden he starts acting like an aloof alpha male. The seeds of repulsion will be no match for your feeble skills, you will feel the true power of the dark side.
The ultimate benefit you have in dealing with marriage however is your routine. Simply start messing with that routine in order to spark the hamster in her again. Some guys go too far with this and rebel against wifey by starting to hit strip clubs and hanging with single friends like a nuclear bomb going off in their married life. This is too much, she’ll react with anger and spite and increase her distaste for you. The trick is to do it subtly and infrequently, slyly reinstating spontaneity in her dreary routine life with the guy. The subtle mystery of slightly messing with the routines while remaining indifferent and aloof about them will be enough to get her hamster on her wheel. Once you see it start to work, you will see hand return to you, and you build on it from there, learning to never relent or find yourself the forgotten man she happens to be living with.