Our culture does not value wisdom, in actuality it knows nothing of wisdom. If wise words are brought up during a conversation (read: argument) it is even ridiculed and attack as an attack itself, rather than sage advice we all should heed.
For example:
Let’s take the blame the victim meme that’s so popular in feminist diatribes. We all know it, the feminist back lash if you acknowledge that if a girl wears certain outfits and puts herself in a vulnerable position, I.e. gets plastered drunk at a frat house and ends up getting raped and one was to suggest the chick shouldn’t have placed herself in such circumstances, than whoever says such is labelled a victim blamer and a misogynist. Sane people hate this, yet don’t know how to rebuts this onslaught of irrational behavior which causes them to recoil on their stance, and back track and offer apologies.
The correct response to this is wisdom, and whether the people choose to listen or not is there choice, but there should never be an apology for dropping some wisdom.
It is not victim blaming. It is always more difficult and near impossible to control others, it is very easy and very possible to control oneself. Now with that reality, what is the wisest course of action? Trying to control oneself, or others?
Personal responsibility is not something that feminists promote which shows their lack of caring towards their own group – they try to foolishly bend the will of everyone else so that girls can do what ever they like, because they should be free to do so.
They are free to do so, as men are as well, but I’m not gonna walk down a bad Neighbourhood flashing $100 bills yo’. For that would be foolish, and would increase my odds of being robbed.
The anti-victim blaming meme is one of fantasy, it believes that violence and danger is something we can irradiate with thoughts, words and tantrums. Over our history, we should know this is an impossibility.
It is one selfs responsibility to keep themselves safe as much as possible, not trying to morph ones idealism into others that think the law doesn’t apply to them.
It always takes two to tango, and advice to young women on how to better protect themselves should not be attacked or met with butthurt accusations of being victim blaming.
Being free to do whatever we want doesn’t mean we should do whatever we want. Denying reality has many dangers, this example being the most severe.
It’s all about abdicating a sense of personal responsibility and downloading that responsibility onto the shoulders of men or society at large to allow individual women to be reckless and perpetuate victim status. Recklessness provides fun and tingles, almost a requisite now, along with massive drinking to lower inhibitions and allow for hookups. They’re following the feminist mantra of ‘wanting it all’, hookups with trappings of danger wrapped in the blanket of real security from harm.
the fox thought something similar when the scorpion stung it halfway across the river.
get drunk enough and true nature is revealed as civilized behavior goes catatonic from the drink.
My usual retort is as follows:
Woman: ‘Guys don’t have to worry about getting drunk and being raped, we want the same as you.’
Me: ‘I don’t have the ability to slap a guy in the face and not have my teeth knocked out in return like girls can. Girls don’t have to worry about becoming parents before their time against their will, unlike guys. Welcome to biological inequities. Welcome to the real world.’
I got into this last week on Yahoo comments regarding a 4:30 am rape in the UK. Women who object to the ‘walking around alone at night is dangerous, duh,’ do have a point – they *should* be able to do that. It’s called civilisation.
Unfortunately, our society doesn’t like to talk about limits, or decreasing marginal utility of increased policing, or the government accounting for the cost of rapes vs. the cost of preventing them, or the difficulty of managing a multicultural society where one man’s girl having fun is another man’s unwrapped meat. So we go round and round the ‘I agree in theory, but in practice’ / ‘oppression!’ hamsterwheel.
no society can and will remove all danger. It’s a part of nature, to believe that we can is immature and naive. We can minimize it, and a big part of that requires us to behave in a manner that is responsible and conscious that danger is always looming.
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Part of the ambient noise in modern times is that arguments rely on tacit premises that are becoming increasingly frayed; inclusive in ‘not blaming the victim’ is the assumption that there really is a legitimate victim as opposed to a simpleton who can’t be bothered to take ordinary care. The former pretext is what they utilize to gain a foothold for the simpleton who is in fact a casualty waiting to happen.
Not sure we don’t have any accumulated wisdom culturally, I tend to separate the white noise of Oprah and her minions in the grievance industry from an underlying culture, which though rusty, dusty and long unused is still there for those would avail themselves.