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Long Term game is infinitely more difficult to pull off than one night stand game. Here’s the facts, with pick up you essentially play the numbers game, even an experience vet with all the skills and wisdom gained through countless conquests under his belt will still be playing a numbers game – sure, not to the same extent as the noob, or the blue piller who just goes out waiting for one of these girls to talk to him – the point being, you get multiple chances to fuck up, and multiple chances to eliminated the sting of rejection from one, or a few girls you’ve tried to pick up, by getting a different one to sleep with you. I will admit that there is a definite rush and addiction associated with picking up girls over and over, it provides a dragon bite for both of men’s insatiable desires; to bang, and to bang variety. And in no way am I trying to suggest that learning game to pick up women is easy, it is however incomparable to the long-term game you will need to keep the woman you want to keep, interested, and vice versa, you interested in her (a common overlooked facet to game). Yes in long-term relationships, you even have to game yourself.
With pick up, it’s all about logistics and energy, displaying sub communications and witty banter mixed with laconic but interesting stories, mixed with kino and flirting – but you only need to keep that stuff up until you bang her, where you then take on another game, either ‘get the fuck out’ game, or ‘I want to keep you around for more banging’s game.’. If you don’t care if you see her again, once you finish busting your nut you can safely relax and not worry or concern yourself with game, or her feelings about you. Game is not important.
With relationship game, you need to be predictably unpredictable over a long period of time, months, years, even decades – you compare an alpha male with a hot babe who’s kept her nuzzling into him, fluttering her glassy eyes at him, and will not look at another man in his presence or not; next to a pua who’s slaying it nightly and you will be looking at two masters of different disciplines of game. Both need patience and an iron will and determination, but, the pick up artist has one advantage which makes his an easier and more seductive lifestyle, that he’s going after new girls is always a reinvigorater, at least until he becomes too old to bang young babes that he desires anymore. The long-term man has to find a way to generate this with the same woman he’s already gamed and banged thousands of times. Familiarity breeds contempt, and its way too easy to let your game slip in a long-term relationship, for the lord of lies tells you its okay to let loose, because you already won her, you already got her, just sit back and kick your feet up. But you can never stop gaming girls, and people. All life is game, and either you learn how to play or you lose. It’s like breathing in that way.
The main advantage the long-term guy has over a pick up guy, is that it’s easier to spot when a girl you’ve been around for a long time starts to waver even a little in her attraction, and this gives him the ability to correct his game before she loses respect and attraction for him, where as if you’re out getting new tail out there, you have to rely on the common tells, where occasionally you’ll run into girls that have bizarre and unknown tells, and you find yourself scratching your head at what you did wrong. Part of the challenge with this is, when in a serious long-term relationship or marriage, the other person becomes a part of your day-to-day life and thus you and her become fairly predictable, and its way too easy to over look some of these tells, because you kind of put that in the back of your head while you deal with the other shit in your life.
Patience and consistent game is required in a long-term relationship, and it takes a lot of work by the man, and not with a girl. This is why girls should do other things like give bj’s, put out when a man wants, know how to cook, cook, be sweet and feminine. etc. The man has to constantly be gaming her to keep her happy, the girl just has to do some stuff and look pretty. It sounds like a lot of work, and like a man has to be constantly doing things to keep her happy, but that’s just what nerdy guys who don’t know game will say – when really the best thing you can do for long term game, is set yourself up from the beginning with your unpredictableness. You want to be this enough for her to count on you being or saying something different often so her hamster can stay nice and fit and healthy while it spins. Once you unlock the secrets of long-term game, it becomes second nature, and you’ll be able to gauge those times when you need to be unpredictably sweet, or unpredictably absent.
Never let a girl think she knows you inside and out.
I am an older, former life time beta who has been married for 20 years. I have been studying game theory for the last few years. From my studies, I have experience some major changes in my relationships at home. My wife has dramatically changed the way she interacts with me. I have transformed from a bumbling Ray Romano type, to king of the castle. Once a hardcore feminist/career type, my wife is actually quite sweet these days and is ever trying to please me. Even my daughter, who was a bitch-in-training, shows me respect I would have never imagined.
I established a zero bullshit tolerance policy. If she said or did anything whiney or stupid or ball-busting, I would immediately and aggressively correct her, no matter where we were; in a restaurant, in front of friends, at the mall, etc., etc. In one particularly poignant moment, I told my wife during a heated encounter, that she would not get any dick until she learned how to act right and had earned it. She actually giggled when I said that (and I could not believe I actually said it), but the latent effect was massive.
This post is spot on, and totally resonates with my experience in an LTR with a girl that will do most anything for me. The comment above is awesome, and cheers to you Esteban for putting your house in order. King of the castle game is a good way to put it.
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